How Love Can Prevail During Lockdown
There are many unfortunate repercussions of the pandemic, from people losing their jobs, facing financial woes to couples being thrusted to spend a significant amount of time with each other. Since the reality of the coronavirus pandemics has mandated many of us to spend a vast majority of our hours in the same surroundings as our counterpart, it’s important to wade through this uncharted territory together and come out of it unscathed.
How do you avoid a breakup?
The silver lining of this pandemic is the opportunity and time to address the pent up issues you may have been avoiding. It’s not easy tackling children studying at home, school responsibilities and the financial tension caused by retrenchment or deductions in salary — it can push couples over the brink. Add that to fear of family members succumbing to the virus, disagreements about social isolation and uncertainty about the new norm and its duration. As some might say, you can’t spell divorce without c-o-v-i-d.
Don’t point out mistakes
There isn’t a need to point out your partner’s mistakes, especially now. While it’s easy to place blame about taking up a position at a company that has recently retrenched your partner, instead, express appreciation. Look at the good and thank your partner for making your morning cup of coffee, putting the kids to bed or even cooking food. Even if you can’t manage that, listing their failings is in poor taste and strategy.
Feelings are valid
Couples aren’t going to agree to everything or see eye to eye on things, but that doesn’t mean either one of you is wrong. It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling, so don’t dismiss your partner’s feelings or approach to the pandemic. Communicate and discuss things as a unit.
Create structure and routine
Conflict is sometimes inevitable, especially when you’re forced to disregard your typical separate routine. To prevent this, create structure in your daily schedule and stick to your regular routine the best you can. You should also allow your partner to do the same. Having structure not only lends some sense of control of your day during these times but gives order and helps you feel productive and positive.
Express your anxieties and fears
The shortage of space in hospitals, rising number of daily cases and fatalities as well as fearing for your loved ones safety is a lot to deal with, mentally. Anxiety has reared its ugly head, causing people to be on a short fuse, more than usual, which can eventually impact relationships. The first step in treating this is to first recognise the anxieties and fears that are inciting interactions with your partner and then expressing them openly. It will certainly help dissipate the panic.
Carve out time for fun
A good laugh can help reduce stress and soothe tension, so for movie night, why not watch some standup comedy by Russell Peters, good ol’ comedy or even play your favourite childhood board game. It’s a win-win situation because you get to spend some quality time with your partner, do something you both enjoy and relieve stress at the same time. When you’re relaxed, you will remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place.
Give each other some space
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder so be sure to give each other some space to help the relationship grow. Carve out some time away from each other, even if it means spending an hour and two in different rooms in the house. Go for a walk, watch your other dislikes or take a nap. Not only will it recharge, but it also creates something new to share with each other, since you would normally talk about your individual days together.